Everyone I know has sent a sext –– either a sexy text or a full-on nude photo. I’d like to think that the person I’m sending these intimate messages to is someone I could trust, but more and more men and women are finding their racy pictures uploaded online. And there isn’t anything they can do about it. Instead of putting yourself in that situation, keep you and your identity safe while still having a sexy, good time.
The most important tip I can give is to never show your face in a naked photo. I know a lot of us struggle with this one, especially when you’re in a relationship. You don’t think that your Pookie will ever do anything to hurt you, and then you have a nasty breakup.
Suddenly your naked photo is posted up online worse than Lindsay Lohan’s mugshot. Don’t risk it! If you want to send a dirty pic, just leave your face out so that if it does end up online, no one will know it’s you. Also, try an app like SnapChat, which allows you to set a time limit on how long the photo exists on the person’s phone.
Make sure you’re sending the texts or photos to the correct person. Nothing is worse than sending a text to your Grandma Velvet saying how you can’t wait to go down on her when you get home. We’re all busy people and sometimes we don’t even confirm the recipient before we push “send.” When you’re sending sexual messages, stop and make sure you’re sending to the right person.
I like to think of sexting as a type of foreplay. I get ramped up knowing that my partner is having kinky thoughts about me during their day-to-day routines. However, I don’t like to reveal too much in my text, either. You want to tempt your partner, not talk like you’re making dinner plans. Say something simple that will have him/her guessing. Making them guess and think about all the options you will have together that will make them want you that much more.
There’s a lot more potential for this editorial: talking about the fact that sexting can become a sex crime for minors under outdated laws, how online images of yourself can harm your job prospects, etc. You hint at potential dangers of sexting, but don’t dwell on it and I think there’s plenty more to see there.