Sexually, I am always trying new things. So this is your summer assignment from me: try this list of must “do” sex acts!
1. You (or your partner) wears a blindfold
When one of your senses is weakened, your other senses compensate. This is definitely the case when you have a blindfold on during sex. Your other senses go into overdrive and you experience them more powerfully.
For me, my touch and hearing get stronger. My favorite thing to do is have my partner whisper in my ear and touch me in my erogenous zones while I’m blindfolded.
You can make a blindfold from something around your home—a tie or scarf works wonderfully. When you’re tying the blindfold on your partner, kiss and whisper to your partner. This will get them turned on and ready for the main event.
2. “Make Love”
I really hate the phrase “make love” because it makes it sound cheesy—like it’s something your parents do. But most people don’t realize that sex and lovemaking are two completely different acts.
When you experience the act of making love you’ll see it differently. It’s not just about sex; it’s about more. When someone who is in love makes love to their partner, they take care of all their needs, not just sexually, but at a deeper and more intimate level.
Try spending more time on foreplay as opposed to rushing intercourse. Have your partner kiss you all over your body, give an erotic massage or have a good ole-fashioned make-out session. All these physical acts will help you and your partner connect on a more intimate level.
3. Have a Quickie
Sometimes, all you have time for is a quickie—and sometimes it’s the best kind of sex. Having a quickie still releases all the good-feeling hormones, making you feel better after, even if you only have sex for a few minutes.
Quickies also give you and your partner the freedom to have sex without a huge ordeal of foreplay, lighting candles or picking out the “mood music.” Make it a timed event—15 minutes tops. You can also have multiple quickies in a day because you wont be as tired after.
4. Anal sex
Anal is one of my favorite sexual acts and I think everyone should at least give it a try, even if it might not be for everyone.
I suggest finding a partner that has had experience with anal before. It can be painful the first time if neither one of the partners has tried it. Make sure to use A LOT of lubricant, and communicate with your partner during the sex act.
5. Outdoor sex
There’s nothing like getting back to nature by having sex outside.
One of my favorite sexual memories was having sex while I was camping with my boyfriend. It was incredibly sensual when I was able to look up and see the moon, realizing I was naked in front of my partner and in front of nature.
Now, I am definitely not saying go to Piedmont Park and try this. Don’t break any laws. What I am saying is that if you are ever in the position to have sex outside, try it. You won’t be disappointed.
6. Go to a sex shop
Atlanta has a few really great sex shops; my favorite is Insurrection off Cheshire Bridge Road.
Take your partner and pick out some new toys to use later, get some new lubricants to try or pick up an adult movie to watch together. Doing this as a couple will help you both get more of an idea about what you’re both into or want to try.
Plus, going with your partner can be more of a relaxed experience than going with your friends. You’re friends may not know about all of your fetishes and it may get uncomfortable if you pick out something they think is weird. With your partner, you can explore the store together, making a choice that you both know you’ll enjoy.
