Feb. 14 is right around the corner and some people have one thing on their minds. It’s Valentine’s Day so every couple is looking to get intimate, right? You’ve been snuggling up all winter long and patiently waiting for the right time to express your love in a special way, so you’re probably considering sex. Before you go book your hotel room for the weekend, you should make sure you and your mate are on the same page.
Yes, there will be hearts everywhere, PDA will be acceptable all day long and affection will be amplified, but there’s nothing worse than you two not being clear on your intentions to throw your mood off.
So how do you ensure that there is no confusion or mix up? Simply put, be straightforward. There’s no need to beat around the bush or act like you don’t know what you want. Whether you’re trying the direct approach or adding the popular “or nah” to the end of your question, you need to handle your business. If you’re not comfortable enough to confirm your Valentine’s Day plans then maybe you shouldn’t be making plans with that person in the first place.
Also, there are people who don’t believe in making a big fuss over Valentine’s Day. Feb. 14 is just another date to them and it doesn’t have to be glorified. Love and affection is something that should be expressed and given daily — as some believe — so to make a big deal or go all out of your way for one day doesn’t make sense to some. Their argument is “what about all the other days?”
There’s also an alternative to having “the talk” with your companion. No sex. This may be the less common approach, but it’s an option. Believe it or not, there are still virgins out there and their position is made clear. There’s no pressure, discomfort or awkwardness in waiting on an answer or reply, because you already know what to expect.
Though I personally fit into the no sex category, I don’t believe in imposing my beliefs on others. To each their own. I do, however, promote safe sex. As cliché as it sounds, safe sex is the best sex. It may be a special day, but no one is too special for you to risk your health.
What if sex isn’t a part of your Valentine’s Day lineup at all? You could have recently started dating someone and you’re not physically trying to go there yet. That’s fine too. There are ways to be intimate without being physically or sexually intimate. Intimacy is really based on your own discretion. There isn’t a guideline or a book that says there’s one official way to be close. Again, this is something you need to clear with your partner or potential lover before trying to solidify any plans.
Love may be in the air or maybe it’s lust. Whatever it is, just make sure the person who’s helping you figure it out has the same intentions as you. Everybody’s not doing “it,” but if you are, be smart about it. Happy Valentine’s Day!
